First Impressions: How To Create A Killer First Message
We can’t really compare online dating with the conventional type of dating, now can we? They both have their advantages and disadvantages, but we simply can’t deny the fact that online dating offers a less stressful experience.
This is exactly why online dating might be a better choice for people who can’t deal with anxiety.
One of the things that often get messed up because of anxiety is the first impression. In real life dating you simply don’t have enough time to figure out how to make a great first impression and we all know how important that is in the dating world.
One wrong move, and you’ve got yourself a deal-breaker right there. This is where online dating comes in. It offers you a chance to sit back, relax and take your time in order to create a killer first message that is going to leave an awesome first impression.
Stay tuned and find out what your perfect first message should look like.
Avoid Complimenting Physical Appearance And Focus On Common Interests
You want to come across as unique and original, right? Well, then you must do your best to avoid complimenting your match’s looks and focus on emphasizing your mutual interests. That way you’ll momentarily create a special bond with your crush based on the things you both love.
That is a perfect start of the conversation that can lead to something more serious.
You should also read their profile carefully and ask them about their interests instead of just talking about yourself. Trust us, they’ve seen thousands of approaches like that. So, show them that you’re really interested in who they are, not just what they look like.
Make Them Laugh
If you really want to make a killer first impression, laughter is the way to go! Everyone is attracted to people who can make them laugh, that’s a fact, so do your best to open with a joke and make sure it’s a clever one.
If you already started talking about your mutual interests (like TV shows, books, movies, hobbies…) you can always use that information to make up some topical jokes and create an even stronger bond with your potential match.
Remember to avoid cheesy and dirty jokes! It’s too early for that kind of stuff. Keep it simple and make it about your mutual interests. Playfully using a famous quote from your favorite movie can always be a great ice-breaker.
Keep It Short, Simple, And Grammatically Correct
A lot of people think that quantity means quality. Well, it doesn’t! Especially in this case. If you don’t want to lose your match’s attention, your first message should be short and simple. A quick introduction followed by some specific and interesting questions about the things you have in common should do the trick.
Oh, and don’t forget to be literate.
Forget about slang, bad grammar, and “netspeak”. That is a major turn off and often a deal-breaker for many people in the online dating world. Good grammar is sexy as hell, always keep that in mind.